Holding a grudge is an art that can be perfected over time. You have to work at it. Don't try more than one grudge at the beginning. Just start with one resentment and let it fester over time.Nurse it and mull over it. Hold it in your mouth and let it slide over your tongue. It will be bitter at first, but you'll get used to the taste. If you feel it fading, list in your mind all the reasons why you've been treated unjustly. Gain moral support by telling as many of your friends and family about the object of your grudge and what a terrible person s/he is. DO NOT under any circumstances actually confront the grudgee. If you are called upon to say aloud to that person all the reasons they have wronged you, you may get confounded and feel like you're reasoning is unsound. No, it's much better to talk behind their backs.
Once you've successfully held on to that grudge for a month or more, you can start adding other grudges--maybe the grudgee's friends or family. Grudging against children is especially easy and can be good practice. They will feel your resentment, but not be able to connect it to their parents. Teenage girls, however, are natural grudge holders, so be aware that your wrath may be turned around back on you.
Contrary to popular belief, you should start with a big resentment--something that makes you boil when you think of it. This will be easier to keep going at first. But with practice you will be able to take the tiniest of slights and turn them into a monster grudge. Remember, practice makes perfect! Ready, get set, resent!
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